I’ve been SAHM for almost 2 months and half and I
must say that I am enjoying being a hands-on mom to Rhian and taking care of
Baby Bunso inside my tummy. This post is not a rant instead I want to give you an
idea on how Ian and I raise our daughter. I’m so tired of those people
comparing our child to their/other child, nakakainis lang kasi I told them na
every child is unique, so please STOP comparing your child to mine. “Bakit yung
anak ko ganito, ganyan, bakit si Rhian ganito..” Bakit yung anak ni ganyan
lakas kumain, bakit si Rhian ganito…” These people are so insensitive. Buti nalang
magaling akong sumagot at di mapagpatol sa mga ganong tanong. I’m so tired of
answering those stupid questions kasi nakaka stress lang so to give you an idea
how we handle our first born child, read on.
MILK
Don’t judge me if we use formula milk to Rhian
rather than Fresh Milk or Breastmilk, for your information I breastfed my
daughter since birth until 1 year old. Tyagaan akong nagpupump sa office namin
para may mauwing gatas para sa anak ko, I just need to stop breastfeeding her
when we found out that I’m pregnant with baby number two. My OB advised me to
stop it because of contractions I felt everytime I breastfed Rhian. Mahirap
para sa akin na itigil yun but I have no choice, I need to do it for the sake
of baby number 2, my husband is so supportive, since naka 1 year narin akong
mag BF kay Rhian, which is normally daw until 6 months lang. Look at our Baby
Ate, she is so healthy and I’m proud to say na breastfed baby sya. Now, she’s
drinking Nan Pro Three kasi yun lang ang nahiyang na milk sa kanya, we tried
giving her fresh milk pero laging nasasayang because ayaw nyang inumin.
SLEEPING TIME
Don’t judge me if my daughter sleeps like an
adult – she sleeps around 10pm or 11pm. If you will tell me “bakit late na
masyado para sa bata yang ganyang oras ng tulog..” now let me tell you this. This
is Rhian’s sleeping hours – she will go to bed by 9pm but since masarap maglaro
sa aircon na room, hindi pa talaga sya matutulog. We will play around and
kulitan moments muna with daddy and baby bunso, by 10pm or 10:30pm she will
drink milk na then daretso tulog. She will woke up by 9am, breakfast, playtime
and around 11:30am her nap time. She will woke up by 12:30pm or sometimes
1:30pm, we will have our late lunch, take a bath, playtime and afternoon nap by
3:30pm and merienda time by 5:30pm. See,iba iba ang schedule ng tulog ng bata,
I don’t force her to sleep on specific time because I want her fall asleep on
her own. Hindi ko na sya hinehele, instead tabi kaming matulog then I will sing her a
lullaby then unting tapik and that’s it.
OOTD
My husband and I decided not to buy clothes that
are not comfortable for Rhian. Let’s say kahit anong ganda at kamahal ng dress
na yun kung hindi naman komportable anak ko, why we should buy that. Rhian is
so comfortable wearing shorts and shirt, sometimes pants. She has lots of dress
inside the cabinet but since she really love to walk and run at the same time,
we opted to dressed her up a simple shorts and shirt with matching sandals or
rubber shoes. Nag dre-dress naman sya if we go to church, party or if there’s
special occasions, pero pag tamang pasyal lang you will notice her outfit, pang
summer talaga.
By the way, pag sa bahay lang kami. Sando and shorts lang sya or sometimes sando and cloth diaper lang. :)
FOOD
I’m happy to say na hindi picky eater si Rhian
although sometimes ayaw lang talaga nya
kumain kc may nararamdaman sya. She will eat anything, if before I prepare
different food for her but when she reach 14 months old, we decided to give her
kung anong kinakain namin. She already tried eating sweets pero patikim tikim
lang, her favorite dutchmilk and yogurt yun ang merienda nya then most of the
time tinapay and biscuit talaga. Don’t get me wrong, we didn’t allow her to
taste softdrinks ha since super baby pa sya pero nakatikim na rin sya ng
icecream and fresh fruit shakes.
BABY LED WEANING
I am proud to say that I am member of Baby Led
Weaning Philippines and I practice my learning to Rhian. One time a friends of
mine sent me private message to FB telling me na wala daw nakakain ang bata pag
hinahayaan na sila lang ang magsubo sa sarili nila, baka daw mabilaukan and super
kalat daw yun saying yung pagkain,, but you know what I told her na I trust
Rhian so much, so I let her feed herself. I just hand her the food in
suitably-sized piece and if she like it she will eat it and if she don’t she
won’t. Simple as that.
I know it’s so hard to practice BLW since Rhian just play with the food. But you know what I’m so proud of Rhian since she explores food and she can cope with different food textures and new tastes without the pressure to eat a set amount or specific food plus the fact that I won’t have to spend time making up purees. She even joins us at mealtime
Just
a simple reminder, BLW is very messy and there is a lot of waste. As in! So you
have to be patient and just believe in your child, kaya nila yun.
PLAYTIME
Most
of the time we let Rhian do whatever she wants to do but with strict
supervision of course. Let say, we let her open the ref, the door, the
television ultimo magkalat at magkalkal ng mga gamit hinahayaan namin sya para
ma explore nya. I’m happy to say that through her observation on what we are
doing inside the house, na aadopt na nya agad, like pag open ng television,
aircon and pati pagsasalin ng water sa baso alam na nya. I let Rhian play
outside, in fact sya lang ang babae dito sa amin and take note puro boys and
kuyas na yung kalaro nya, she wants to play ball, taya-taya and even taguan. I
let her walk and run on her own (ooppss.. of course nasa tabi parin nya ko), I
let her explore the things around her kasi I believe na mas effective sya
compare sa mga napapanood sa tv. Speaking of TV, I allow her to watch
television not because gusto ko lang mapirmi sya but I want her to learn how to
dance and sing and appreciate everything. In fact Hi-5 and Mickey Mouse
Clubhouse ang favorite nya. Now, everytime we watch those show napapasayaw and
indak ang anak ko. Watching television often is not bad naman at all, but too much
exposure to them is bad na. Ika nga nila nasa time management lang yun.
So I hope everything is clear na, iba iba talaga ang pagpapalaki ng magulang sa anak nila. So please stop comparing your child to another child kasi nga uulitin ko, every child is UNIQUE.
True! Every child is unique and one mom can definitely learn from another mom some tips and tricks. It all boils down to what is good and what will work for our babies! See you soon ChingChing!
ReplyDeleteGosh! Na stress din ako sa mga nabasa ko! Hahaha! Alam mo Rackell, halos magkapareho tayo. Nakakainis naman talaga yang mga ganyan eh. Ayoko talaga ng comparison, kahit ako sa sarili ko ayaw ko na ikumpara ako sa iba, sa anak ko pa kaya na ikukumapra sa kung sinong bata? Nakakapikon! Anyway, I would say na hindi nag iisa si Rhian, Jami sleeps nga at around 12:30 to 1am na. Kasabay namin sya dahil late na ako nauwi from work eh. He wakes up at 10am then nap time at 2-5pm. Hindi rin sya palakain ng food, malakas mag dede talaga. Hindi din sya matagal na breastfeed unlike Rhian na nasa 1 yo pa bago naihinto. He's not perfect because we're not perfect parents din. We have our own way kung paano sya palakihin, pakealam ba nila? Hayy.. wag ka na pa stress jan sa mga yan.. Pati ako nai stress eh hahaha!
ReplyDeleteSo please stop comparing your child to another child kasi nga uulitin ko, every child is UNIQUE." I agree with you mommy! And in the same way, we have different parenting styles too. Minsan nakakapagod if people around keep on comparing. From BF to speech devt to lahat na. :P I usually smile back, but sometimes I try to tell them too that every child is unique, pati our parenting styles, na I believe nagaadjust depending sa need, personality ng bata. :) But anyway, it's still fun talking and learning from other parents. Grace nalang talaga. :) Thanks for sharing. :)
ReplyDeleteIt can be very stressful if we have to listen to every piece of advice that people have with regards to raising our own children so we need to go with our motherly instinct and do what we need to do.
ReplyDeletei agree with you on sooo many points here! :)
ReplyDeleteWow, ang galing, and dami mong milk. Ako naman I'm still breastfeeding pero mahina lang talaga, i tried everything nung maliit pa sya pero umiiyak at bitin, so nagpump ako to check, naku sobrang konti nga, yung mahal na pump pa naman binili namin baka makatulong, well may ganun daw talaga sabi ng doctor, kaya formula pa rin.
ReplyDeleteChildren grow so fast don't they? Parang kailan lang I was raising toddlers' now my youngest is 7 and growing up to be very independent. We just have to make the most and enjoy our kids as much as we can.
ReplyDeleteDon't be too hard on yourself, mommy! Okay lang yan! Wag ka pa stress sa salita ng iba. Galing nga eh! Gusto ko matutunan din ng baby ko BLW. Anong group un?
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MrsMartinez
yay to breastfeeding! and yes, comparison steals joy. and for goodness sake, why gossip about babies/children? these people are annoying.
ReplyDeleteEvery child is unique so there's no perfect parenting aside from the one you are adjusting to depending n your child's needs. I really hope other people would stop judging and just respect what other people do.
ReplyDeleteWhat? Formula milk ka? KIDDING! Galing na nga ng 1 year eh! Nakakainis yung ganon, but more than that, mas naaawa ako sa babies nila. Nakakalungkot to have such judgy and competitive parents. As long as the child is healthy, happy, and loved, at dahil hindi sila nagpapakain sa mga anak natin, they don't have a say in our lives!
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