There are lots of changes and
new discovery that we faced for the past 6 months. Most of my friends told me
that the first year of married life might be one of the most difficult you’ll
ever face. Why? Because, learning to live day in and day out with someone who
was raised with different habits, morals and rules was really an adjustment. It’s
like moving to a foreign country – “Culture Shock” in other words. But you know
what; Ian and I take our time together and allow ourselves to adjust to our new
culture for in time, the shock will wear off and we will begin to feel at home.
Adjustment in a marriage is a
two-way process, so let me share you some of our adjustments as a married
couple.
My adjustments:
1.
Honestly, it can take
a while to get used everything in my new life. New Husband, new surname
(**kilig
much**), new government and company ID’s, new address, new title, new bank
accounts, new health card etc.. but I know that it’s just the beginning.
2.
I already know how to
cook delicious dishes. Thanks to all food bloggers who shares their secret
recipes.
3.
I always woke up early
to prepare our breakfast and baon for lunch.
4.
I learned how to
budget our money and pay all our expenses for the month.
5.
I can now sleep with
a snoring husband. Haha. (nasanay na ata ako eh..)
6.
The hardest
adjustment for me has been staying up until 2am. Yes! 2AM! My husband was
sooooo busy with laptop! He also wants me to watch “Rooftop Prince” after all
the teleserye at
ABS CBN. San ka pa db..
7.
I learned to
understand some of his weird habits. He’s human being too! Hehe.
His adjustments:
1.
He knows how to wash
our clothes.
2.
Hubby is in-charge to
wash our plates.
3.
He became more mature
when it comes in handling our relationship and problems.
4.
He helps me in
cleaning our house.
5.
He became more attractive..
Chos!
6.
He became more
sexier.. Chos!
7.
From happy-go-lucky
guy change to family-man.
As a couple:
1.
Sometimes we fight but this is because
before wedding, we’re both individuals leading different
lives while marriage
brought us together and we know that these differences may lead to clashes
in
our marriage, that’s why we settle our issues
before going to sleep to understand each other
better.
2.
We learn how to
curdle each other everyday. Kilitian and agawan ng pillow ang favorite namin..
3.
Sometimes, we take a
bath together.. Hihi (rated SPG)
4.
We know how to
compromise with each other.
5.
We always find time
to talk to each other even though we’re both very tired.
6.
We pray together
before meal time and before going to sleep.
7.
We discuss money
matters together and keeping our future plans in mind.
8.
We take a break
occasionally from our daily routine life by going on a vacation together to
unwind our stress and spend quality time with each other.
9.
Even though we got
married, we give each other a space to do whatever we want to do with
limitations of course. Like meet up with friends, inuman session, girls or boys
night out etc..
10.
We keep the romance
alive of utmost importance.
11.
We do not rush to
have children. We talked about it that the first year of marriage have to be
committed in getting to know and understand each other better. That we should
work hardly to
build a strong relationship so that when God bless us children,
we can give our kids a future that is
happy and secured.
12.
We hear mass every
Sunday to thank the Lord for all the blessings that we received.
Lesson Learned:
- Consider that your spouse is going through the same things
that you are. (adjustment stage)
- The so called “EGO” has to be kept aside.
- Marriage is a game that two play and both “WIN”.
- We are now sailing in the same boat. We should keep it
balance so that it will not sink.
- No matter how much or how seriously you fight, you must make
up before you go to sleep, and
PLEASE don’t carry a rancor to the next day.
- Soften your heart towards your partner.
I read an article about
marriage and this phrase stick on my mind.
“Every phase of marriage has
to be dealt with in a different way. The adjustment period is the MOST
difficult stage in marriage but just believe that once you get past it, life
after marriage unfold as a beautiful symphony”
I know, Ian and I will still encounter lots of adjustments during our first year of marriage, but we believe that we can work it out as we have a lifetime to do it together.
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